Those of you who know me know I don't micro-manage my girls.
They know what I expect, in pretty much every aspect of their life. They know they better produce said results. If they need my help, they know they can ask, and I am all up in their business. But I don't micro-manage. I don't hover. First of all, I can't. And second of all, how in the world is that preparing them for life? In my humble opinion, it absolutely isn't. And third of all, I can't. Put on your big girl pants girls and do what you need to do to get there. If you choose not too, you won't get there. And if you don't get there, then you are in trooooouble.
For illustration purposes, example number one:
I'll never forget sitting in a YW fireside with 2. We were listening to an inspirational speaker. She was very accomplished and inspiring. Then she started talking about "helping" her 17 (17!!) year old daughter do her homework, make her decisions, choose her report subject, doing her personal progress.... well micro-managing really. After it was over, 2 leaned over to me and hugged me so tight. She said "Thanks, mom. I could never deal with that. Thanks for trusting me to manage myself." Or something like that. 2 was newly 17 and had never had me choose a report subject for her in her life.
And example number 2: This happened exactly 3 days into summer vacation. AKA yesterday.
Me: "4, you haven't had a bath in 3 days. And you have been wearing the same dress all that time. What's up with that?"
4: "That's because nobody cares to wash my clothes."
You win some, you lose some.